I have worked with men as a dating and life coach for a few years now. I have sat with you in person or on the phone and I read your painful emails. The struggle is real out there gentlemen and I know it. I’d like to tell you that women will one day wake up and just get it. One day they will realize that you have feelings too; you just don’t share as easily and quickly as they do. One day women everywhere would even learn how to speak to you in a way that makes sense.

For now, it’s in your hands. But don’t worry – you got this and I got your back. I want you to stop thinking 50 shades and Chick Flick mentality. Let’s leave that to the ladies. I want you to pay no attention to the women that quickly reject you or don’t return messages on dating sites. I want you to look at who you are and not who or what you are not. You do not need to be feminized, changed, taller, wealthier to have a great woman and relationship.

If you are a good man, with aspirations, working toward having your shit together and ready for love; I invite you to step into your masculine power. Deserving women everywhere will thank you for stepping up. Take charge – In the beginning of relationships, this means planning dates and not entertaining the “Where do you want to eat dinner”?, back and forth. Just pick and take the opportunity to bring her into your world of favorite hot spots. THAT is the man that women really want.

Be authentic and deliberate – Flirt and be direct with women who interest you in authentic and genuine ways. Put you first – No, don’t eliminate being kind, but take care of your well-being in all aspects. Make your time valuable and create boundaries on whom you give it to and how you spend it. Up-leveling to a more masculine power sets the tone for things and relationships to come. Just pick and take the opportunity to bring her into your world of favorite hot spots.